The late Jim Rohn, motivational leader and business expert, used to say “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” In this episode I explain the benefits of having the right 5, and how to identify, and replace members of your five by providing value to a potential new members.
With whom do you surround yourself?
In this Technique Tuesday, I talk about the quote” “You are the average of the 5 people with whom you spend the most time.”
I explain the pitfalls of always wanting to be the smartest person in the room. Instead, you should be asking, “Who am I hanging out with that’s better than me? “Who can I learn from and how?”
There are benefits to being the “dumbest” in the room.
1. The people you will be with have “been there and done that” – Spend time with people who are more successful than you. That also means they’ve failed before and have been met with challenges as well. They can help you face and conquer your challenges and failures.
2. These “smarter” people are less prone to being bogged down by negativity. If they’re more successful than you, chances are they haven’t fallen prey to negativity but have kept moving and kept it positive.
3. They possess a stronger network than you do because of their level of success. They can introduce you to people in their network and help you rise to the same level.
I’m proposing an exercise for my listeners:
Come back to this episode and write down the 5 people with whom you spend the most time. Who are they? What do they contribute to your life? Are they ambitious, successful, optimistic? Or are they negative, energy-draining people? Begin to evaluate what these people contribute to your life.
Next, review the list. Are these people essential to your 5 or can you replace a few of them or perhaps choose to spend less time with them? Think about others you can add to your list of 5. I encourage you to reach beyond your comfort zone. Choose those who could be most valuable to your life and professional career. Introduce yourself to their circles. Reach out to them via social media and ask if they have 15 minutes to talk. Chat about THEM and their success, not yourself. Help find your place in life and in your field through positive interaction with these successful people.